“The art of acceptance is the art of making someone who has just done you a small favor wish that he might have done you a greater one”. –Martin Luther King Jr.
I’m attempting to share something personal and significant in this post and not sound too preachy, so bare with me.
Everyone can agree our country is going through a growing pain no matter what school of thought, political preference, race or gender you may be. It’s hard to see division and hate because with it brings feelings of being unsettled and unsure of the future. Through unity there is strength and to become unified we must begin with acceptance.
Saying you are an accepting person and practicing acceptance can be two different things. There may be instances you are not being accepting of yourself, others, your current situation or how life has played out.
The more I thought about the relationships I have and how those make me feel, I began to see how important acceptance really is and how by committing to it fully, you can be set free. Free of judgment, free of worry, free of trying to find a solution or fix everything.
I chose to accept things in my life and by doing so, feel as if a weight has been lifted and I am living a more carefree and peaceful existence. I thought this would be a fitting subject for today’s post because if anyone was trying to spread acceptance and speak to its power it was Martin Luther King Jr.
To help explain my point further, I want to share a personal story that truly tested my ability to practice acceptance and in result turned into something even better than I could have imagined.
The story is from our wedding day. If you’ve been married (or have someone close to you that went through the process) then you know it can get pretty stressful trying to make the day perfect for your family and friends and live up to the picture you both created in your minds.
Like many brides, I had every detail planned and obsessed over all of them down to the programs that were designed to be fans to keep our guests cool (it was an outdoor ceremony in the sun). It was July 4th on the east coast and we did what we could to prepare for the inevitable hot and sticky day you usually encounter on a New England summer day.
The one thing we didn’t plan for was an epically MAJOR hurricane that would sweep up the coast and with it bring sideways rain and wind gusts that left nothing in their wake and lasted from sun up to sun down. So much for those fans!
I could have came apart, gave into the hopelessness I was sure to feel as none of the backup plans we had in place (covered tents, etc.) would work due to the severity of the storm. But I didn’t. Somehow a wave of acceptance washed over me from the minute the first raindrop fell and I knew there was a lesson and a reason this was the big day we had tirelessly prepared for.
The day ended up being magical despite the weather and some guests when told the ceremony was intended to be outside, didn’t believe it. Our photographer was in awe of the unique photo ops we were able to capture and I saw all the people I love come together and literally move mountains (or in this case the handmade arbor my brother built) to make the ceremony and day unforgettable.
Acceptance. It gives you peace and calm knowing things will work out as they should and all the worrying and resistance in the world won’t change that.
What I hope is that you try. Try this in every circumstance in your life, whether it’s in the relationships you have or the rainy wedding day you can’t predict. There is really only one thing you can change and that’s your reaction. If you choose to be happy and surround yourself with those that make you happy, there’s nothing in this world that can touch that.
I’ve chosen to surround myself with those that build me up, give just as much as they take. I’m creating acceptance in my life so that I am not left exhausted and unable to give energy where I wish to and where it’s deserved. It can be hard to accept that all relationships in your life may not be what you want them to be, and that’s ok. Sometimes accepting that you need to let something go, especially if it is not serving you, can be the healthiest decision you can make.
Wishing you all the acceptance you desire,